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Heartbreak: The 6 Stages and How to Overcome It

Struggling with heartbreak? In this blog we explain the six stages of heartbreak and how you can overcome this tough time.

Falling in love is one of the best feelings anyone can have. It brings about joy and happiness knowing that you always have a shoulder to lean on in times of trouble. However, a heartbreak is the last thing you would expect when meeting the love of your life.

But when things prove not to work what can you do? When the person you thought meant the world to you turns out to be the reason for your sadness and sorrow, what option do you have? Or when he or she just wakes up one morning and decides to walk away without explaining anything. Sometimes it is hard to accept but when the reality checks in there’s nothing much you can do rather than accept and move on. Most likely, you will go through these six stages of heartbreak.

Denial

The denial stage is the stage when we are not willing to accept that indeed the relationship is over. It is not easy to let go especially if two people have been together for a considerable period of time. When you think of all the good moments you have spent together – it becomes very difficult to accept the fact that the relationship is over.

The best way of coming out of this situation is to allow yourself time to grieve. Do not be in a hurry to move on. Cry all you want and more importantly get a close friend who you can open your heart to. Do not be afraid to express your emotions during this time.

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Rage

This that stage where you vent anger to your Ex and almost anyone who comes close to you. At this stage, no one can tell you anything or advise you. If you have a pet, you kick it and never want to see anything around you that reminds you about your Ex. In short, it is a stage where you have already accepted the fact that your relationship is finally gone and you want to ensure everyone knows how much that pisses you off.

Reasoning

This is the point where you now try to justify why the relationship had to end. If it was you who ended the relationship, then you will try to list all the things that your partner did that caused you to make the decision of ending the relationship. If it was your partner who broke the relationship, you will try to think how much you have bared with him or her.

Depression

This is the worst stage of a breakup. It is a time when the reality has sunk in and you want to be left alone. You never want to get out of bed or do anything. Eating and sleeping also become a problem. Extreme cases of depression result in suicidal thoughts. This is a time that you need someone around to avoid anything bad from happening to you. If the situation appears worse, then it would be good to seek professional help.

Acceptance

Now, this the stage where you come to accept things as they are. You decide that what has happened has happened and there’s nothing you can do about it. It is a point where you make statements such as “the idiot wasn’t worth my time” I didn’t even love him or her,” “I am better off without him or her”. In other words, you have weighed the situation and realized that there’s more to life than mourning a broken relationship.

Rebirth

At this point, you still feel a little bit sad but the idea of getting back with your Ex has completely vanished. It is a time you now start mingling with other people and doing things that make you happy. You want to go out with friends and never mind getting into a new relationship.

You will find peace with the breakup

In general, no one is immune to heartbreak. It is something that can happen to anyone at any point in life. The best thing to do is to learn how to deal with it when it happens. Understand that some relationships were never meant to be permanent.

If your partner decided to break up the relationship, then there must have been a reason for that. In case the heartbreak appears to weigh too much on you, it would be important to seek professional help.

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